The Needs of Grief

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The experience of Doug Manning is that the greatest need of grief is permission from ourselves and others to take the time to walk through the journey of grief.   You need to find safe places and safe people who won’t trivialize your feelings.

“Contrary to what a lot of people believe (or hope), comfort doesn’t take the pain away. Comfort slides in beside the pain, pulling up a chair so that we have something more than sorrow in our hearts. Comfort gently expands our spirits so that we can breathe again. Comfort opens our eyes so that we can see possibility again. And on those days, whether it is the next day or five years removed, on that day when grief rears its dark head again, comfort helps us remember that pain is not all there is”
Peggy Haymes, Strugglers, Stragglers and Seekers: daily devotions for the rest of us
“Unless you have been very, very lucky, you have undoubtedly experienced events in your life that have made you cry. So unless you have been very, very lucky, you know that a good, long session of weeping can often make you feel better, even if your circumstances have not changed one bit.”
Lemony Snicket, Horseradish: Bitter Truths You Can't Avoid
" Mourning is one of the most profound human experiences that it is possible to have... The deep capacity to weep for the loss of a loved one and to continue to treasure the memory of that loss is one of our noblest human traits".
Shneidman (1980)
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