October 15 – Child, Infant and Pregnancy Loss Day
I cannot imagine a sadness greater than losing a child. Yet it can be one of the most overlooked griefs, especially when it comes to pregnancy or early infancy losses. This is such an important topic. I’ve heard my friends tell stories of the awful, awful things people have said to them following the loss of their infant. I’ve had my own miscarriage and been treated poorly at the hospital, and been afraid then to tell anyone, as I really could barely cope with the loss myself, and wasn’t up to hearing other’s poorly though out comments. There’s now a TV show in which the mother has triplets, only one of the triplets doesn’t survive the birth. They do touch upon how difficult it is for the parents to care for these new, wonderful babies, and yet at the same time grieve for the baby who didn’t survive. How incredibly difficult and heartbreaking as a parent. It makes me realize how much more aware I should be of those around me who have suffered the loss of a child. I look at my own children, and can’t imagine my life without them. And yet everyday that’s a reality of millions of people, whether they lost a child at infancy or in adulthood. Take a look around you this month to those you know, think about their losses and reach out. If you reading this and have lost a child yourself, know that there are those of us who do understand, and who are thinking of you, standing with you as you remember your child.
Take Time – Acknowledge Your Loss – Grieve Together